Thanksgiving weekend

We had a great Thanksgiving weekend! Ross had a really long break - off early on Tuesday and doesn't have to go back until next Tuesday (he did have to muster on Wednesday and Monday - just stop in at the base and say "hi"). So we had a great time hanging out and spending time with our little family watching the Macy's day parade, football, and going for a walk on Thursday. My parents and little sister made the trip from Ohio to spend the holiday with us and drove the entire way on Thanksgiving day, so Ross and I had lunch meat sandwiches and an apple for lunch while they had Burger King and then we all had some leftover chicken taco soup and roast beef for dinner. Our Thanksgiving meal was on Friday (we had quite a turnout - 10 friends and family!!) and we made too much food (of course). Saturday was Leanna's birthday so after watching Ohio State beat the pants off michigan we went to an Italian restaurant here in Wilmington that she likes and then had some cake. It was a pretty low key weekend - just hanging out enjoying each other's company and playing pass the baby. Luke loves his aunt Leanna, Babbie and Grandpa and had lots of smiles for them.

Happy Birthday Marine Corps!

Last night we went to the 235th Marine Corps birthday ball in downtown Wilmington...and it actually turned out to be a nice night. The last time Ross and I went to the ball (2 years ago) there was no dancing and everyone left after dinner or did not show up! This year was a different story with a crazy DJ and full tables. Of course, it was the first time Lucas had a babysitter. He did great hanging out with Heather Lane for the night :)

Rolling Over

Here is a video of Luke rolling over! He is so adorable :)

I have noticed that I have been calling Luke "Lucas" when I talk and "Luke" when I write. I don't know what that means or which one will finally stick. Time will tell!

New do!

Check out my new mom hair cut! I honestly never understood why so many women cut their hair after having a baby until I became a mom... suddenly you have been cooped up in the house for what seems like an eternity, you rarely have time to wash AND dry your hair so it is up in a ponytail everyday, and your baby likes to grab onto your hair and hasn't learned how to let go (sometimes you find yourself face to face with a crying baby trying to shsh, soothe, bounce, give a pacifier, and pry their hands open at the same time). When I found myself at the hair salon I was showing Hannah some pictures and she was like, "so you want this shape or you actually want to go this short?" And although I was planning on just mimicking the shape, for some reason I said "cut it off!" I almost had a panic attack on the ride home but I am settling into my new look now :)

I have also recently started using coverup and pressed powder to hide the circles under my eyes and so far I have not had a major breakout. Thank goodness! I have been avoiding these products my entire life because I thought they would clog my pores and turn me into pizza face. Ahhhh how becoming a mother can change your perspective :)

2 months!

Lucas is 2 months old and doing great according to the Dr.! He went in for his 2 month well baby checkup yesterday and had to have 7 vaccines (administered in 3 shots). It seemed like an awful lot for such a little guy but he did great. I know there is a lot of debate about whether or not children should be vaccinated...I will just tell you that I believe in modern medicine and the advances we have made thus far so I have no problem preventing my child from getting something like polio via a vaccine. Here is my rant: About 100 years ago the medical field decided to focus on acute illnesses by separating the body from the mind and treating for quantity of life vs. quality. At this point I believe they have significantly impacted this goal because people are dying less from acute illnesses than ever before (thanks in part to vaccines). The challenge for the medical community now is to shift gears a bit and focus on the chronic illnesses that are the primary killers; for example, cancer, heart disease, alzheimer's, and diabetes. This means the body and mind must be put back together and the medical community will have to focus on quality of life. This is just now beginning and I hope that significant strides will be made in my lifetime for obvious reasons. This does not mean we should forget about all the advances that hve been made for acute illnesses! There, I am done.

Dr. Gaylord is happy with the growth curves he is following at this point. Such a relief! Not only is he growing like a weed, he is also beginning to socialize more and accomplish other developmental milestones... He can smile in response to a smile and spontaneously, vocalize in a way other than crying (he learned how to cough the other day and has been fake coughing and laughing at himself ever since), roll over, follow an object moved 180 degrees, and lift his head 90 degrees during tummy time. Something he can do that is not in the books - sometimes when his pacifier falls out of his mouth he can somehow get it back in on his own by fishing for it or using his fist. He is quite an amazing little baby boy :)

Here are his 2 month stats:

Height: 23.25 inch (88th percentile)

Weight: 10 lb, 10 oz. (39th percentile)

Head circumference: 39.1 (62nd percentile)

Bompa came for a surprise visit!

Hanging out in his swing

A cute face he makes when he is cooing

Product Review: Diapers

My mom used to tell me this story about my older sister and me... she was carrying us into the grocery store when we both had an accident - on her (one pee and one poo). So, she turned around and went home, thankful that it happened in the parking lot and not the produce section. I'm not going to lie...this story scared me from the thought of having kids for a very long time (I really don't like to be dirty).

As of today, it is official, Luke pooped on me. I had just changed his diaper 10 minutes prior to the incident so it caught me by complete surprise. I didn't even realize it had happened to the extent it did until I put him on the changing pad...now I had Luke with saturated pj's, me with poo down my arm, a dirty swaddling blanket, and a dirty changing pad cover. There was no ideal answer to how to clean this up. If I somehow managed to clean him up and put a new diaper on - it would get dirty from the changing pad cover. If I put him down in his crib to change the cover, then the sheets would get dirty. If I somehow changed him without getting him dirty again and then picked him up - my arm would get him dirty!!! Ahhhh!!! The only answer was bathtime...clean him as best as I could, run with naked baby to the bathtub and hope he doesn't pee on me too, clean him and my arm, dress him in crib, change changing pad cover, take a shower. ahhhh mommy and baby are clean again :)

This leads me to my first product review: diapers. Before Luke arrived, I had debated extensively the merits of paper vs. cloth and every option in between. I really liked the idea of gDiapers which are a hybrid option with a flushable insert that a friend of mine loves. Unfortunately this wasn't an option for economic reasons. So, we have tried quite a few others... keep in mind these reviews are based on my baby and his anatomy (flat butt, skinny legs).

• Earth's Best - may be best for the earth but they are not absorbant enough to prevent leakage. Keep in mind this leakage came through the diaper not out of the diaper.


• Huggies- Do not stay on a flat butt baby (FBB). Each time I went to change him the diaper had slid to his knees and there was a mess.


• Huggies Pure and Natural - same as above but with the cutest design.


• Pampers - Pretty decent in absorbancy and fit (when he isn't between sizes). The only problem is the height of the diaper. Luke is very long and skinny. When he has to move up a size, the new diaper is way too long and has to be pulled really tight to prevent leaks.


• Papers swaddlers - Great for absorbancy and fit. I would venture to say these diapers are almost too good. Many times he has gone potty without anyone realizing it because it wicks away the mess preventing him from feeling it and they are scented so it is hard for the parents to tell. Many times I went to change him and the inner layer was stuck to his bottom because it had been dirty so long :(


• Seventh Generation - Great for absorbancy and fit as long as it isn't too big of a mess!

Frenectomy

Lucas had his frenectomy last week - which means the small flap of skin that attaches his tongue to the bottom of his mouth has been snipped allowing him to stick his tongue out and suck properly. Yea! Also, he aced his follow up weight check appointment so he is officially good to go :)

I heard someone say the other day (I think it was Ellen - yes, I am an Ellen junkie) that it seems strange that the more important things you do in life seem to come without instruction manuals - raising a child is one of them. I would agree with this statement based in my short 7 week experience. I always thought having and raising a child was going to be the most natural thing in the world because it is what our bodies were made to do and is something humankind has been doing since we were created. However, I can't help but wonder how we have come this far for those unnatural situations - for example, would a prehistoric or biblical time version of me have the support and knowledge to have a frenectomy performed on Lucas? Most likely not. In fact, maybe Lucas would not have made it because of his tied tongue and inability to get the proper amount of nourishment from his mommy. What a tragic thought! I guess right now I am feeling a bit smug in the eye of survival of the fittest - take that evolution! My beautiful boy is healthy and thriving despite the odds :)

For those modern day mothers who may experience the same thing, this is what I have learned...

Pediatricians used to routinely perform frenectomys within the first few days of birth. Now it is not even something they seem to look for at well-baby checkups after you leave the hospital. Even when the baby is having weight gain issues. If it weren't for the lactation consultants at the hospital suggesting the procedure, Lucas would probably be a formula fed baby (not that there is anything wrong with that, I think there are countless good reasons for formula feeding). What is even crazier about pediatricians not looking for this condition is that a tied tongue can also impact speech and oral health as an adult. Sometimes I feel like I am taking crazy pills! Anyway, apparently pediatricians got away from snipping in the past few generations. I wonder why.... a few guesses: 1. the push to feed babies formula of the 1970's (or was it the 80's? 60's?), 2. the revolution of the medical industry by insurance companies, 3. fear of medical malpractice claims, 4. the large groups of doctors who work together to cover the on-call medical emergencies (I don't have a problem with this - it just makes continuity of care during those first moments of life nearly impossible). Whatever the reason may be, Lucas had to have his frenectomy done by an ENT, pediatric dentist or oral surgeon. We were lucky because he was referred to an ENT who will do the procedure during an office visit using a topical anesthetic. Thank goodness he did not have to be put under general!

Whatever. Here are the facts - If you want to breastfeed and your baby is tongue-tied you will experience lots of pain at the nipple because of a poor latch. In fact Lucas continually fell off latch because he couldn't do it! How terrible is it that even if you grit your teeth and curl your toes through the pain of poor latching, your baby will become so exhausted from the struggle of feeding that he/she will not be able to empty the breast (depleting milk supply) and will end up burning more calories than he/she can ingest (causing weight loss). Your baby will also have a LOT of gas and possibly act painful when pooping (I hate to think he was in pain, but maybe he was). A frenectomy can help alleviate these problems. BUT, when he/she has the procedure done there will be lots of screaming, crying, and blood and you will question whether you made the right decision because no mother wants to see their baby in pain. I want to warn you that this is not an instant solution! Now you and your baby will have to re-learn how to breastfeed (yea! sore nipples again!). For Lucas we had to continue topping him off after each feeding with a bottle of expressed milk or formula to make sure he didn't lose weight again. In three days he gained 5 ounces, so now it is time for tough love - breastfeeding only until we have it down.

I am just thankful it is over... and thankful for all the support and prayers from family and friends

Resting after the surgery

No more frenulum!

Trick or Treat

Happy Halloween!